One Wave Is all It Takes – Tackling Depression and talking facts on how to support those around you at work and at home.
Mental health, what does that really mean? Is that confined to social media, teenagers, those out of work, stressful situations in your career or not really finding a place anymore in life and not being able to talk about it – at all….
It could mean suffering with bipolar or depression or having hereditary illnesses in your family and not feeling you can actually share this with your kids, with your colleagues.
In today’s podcast I chat with Occupational Therapist and passionate surfer, Joel Pilgrim, about the new foundation ONE WAVE IS ALL IT TAKES; supporting those in local communities effected my some form of mental illness or depression.
The what, they why and how this is so engaging – one wave at a time.
Joel forms his therapy around getting out in the ocean, having the ability to forget about everything else out there and just go surfing. He saw the absolute amazing impact that had on people.
“When you try and connect inside in a more clinical setting, in an official way, there was no way you could kind of create that engagement”.
According to Joel, it’s all about the community, that’s the one thing that’s really going to change the way we move forward with mental health. Connection, engagement, education are all things that play a part in that but without community we don’t really have that sense of we’re in this together.
And from this idea of community comes ‘One Wave and Fluro Fridays’, a movement of 20,000 people around the world. Connecting to this message that one wave is all it takes to really turn around your life.
Founded by Grant Trebilco, this is an initiative to bring mental health sufferers and their families and their friends together to create an environment where you can just come and collectively share.
Fluro Fridays have been represented in 101 locations around the world.
Why are we talking about this now?
It’s not like depression or mental illness is new, but today we are seeing younger people come through or specially working men, between the age of 35 and 50 with the highest depression rate at the moment.
- Do we feel like we have to put on this fake mask: I’m doing fine, I’m a big rough and tough guy?
- How is social media influencing this and the virtual world?
- Are not allowing people to connect and have real deep relationships due to an ever increasing online presence.
- Even though, everyone’s “connected” people feel very lonely and they’re very isolated.
Making depression OK to discuss
One of the challenges we face is the stigma around talking about your personal life with someone that you’ve never met before. How do we overcome this? How do we make people open up?
- So what happens when someone starts to open up?
- We all want to ask questions, are you okay?
Here are Joel’s 5 tips if you are confronted with a friend or a family member that comes and says, “I’m not OK”
- Open up the dialogue.
- Give them the space.
- You don’ have all the answers. A lot of people often say, what do I say? I don’t know what to say, how do I deal with this situation and my simple response is: you don’t need to know. Its simply, I’m here for you and I’m going to help you get through this.
- Acknowledge and make them feel safe. No judgement, you don’t have to give a solution, you just have to say, thanks for shearing, you’re not alone anymore.
- Do they have someone to speak to? If you’re close with them, that could be you. If not close with them, ask them, if they have anyone that you could talk to about this.If they do, great. If they don’t then head to the One Wave website for a whole host of resources: Lifeline, kids help line. Beyond Blue, Black Dog Institute etc.
Remember to check in with the person if it’s OK to reach out for help on their behalf.
Getting Back On Track
Suffering from depression and need to find your mojo – here are some ways to get back on track:
- Finding something that you love, something that you’re connected to and that resonates with you and then you can actually find yourself again. It doesn’t have to be surfing, why not go out in nature? Go for a walk, head into the mountains, go to the nearest park in your city, take your lunch outside, look up.
- Digital Detox; go and have dinner with your family at the table.
- Book a walk and talk with a friend if you want to. Instead of being able to just sort of go through all of these windy roads in life, where you feel you go tug of war and push and pull, you find yourself, you reconnect and that element of stillness.
- Don’t be afraid to be yourself and if you are seeking help at the moment, make sure you have real chemistry with whoever is helping you, whether it’s a coach, a mentor, a clinical support.
You need to have an open conversations and find the person that really, you can be straightforward with and you know straight away when you find the right coach too.
It’s okay not to be okay.
For those of you, who might be from the corporate world or from those places where you think that a conversation around mental help would be beneficial in your workplace then absolutely reach out. We have a corporate program, we have wellness experiences, we have in office and on beach experiences for all kinds of different people. Y Just drop me a line firstname.lastname@example.org or leave a comment below.
If you want to run a Fluro Friday, you can find more information here.
Hope you enjoyed this episode and special thanks to Joel for sharing his story and the mission of One Wave.